He is in a lot of pain, but doesn't want to vent it on you. It's easy to take out your feelings on your partner as he is the one that is closest to you and also, he is indirectly the reason that you are suffering from the problem. If so, then you need to acknowledge that before you can decide where to go next. However her life with you didn't happen like this. If you are angry because you want to control her, then try to understand why you feel out of control. Now that I am single again, my attitude about casual sex has changed from my perspective in the 70s and 80s.
I would learn to meditate. Like I was about to become a douche and God put her in the way so I don't go around douching. Start writing down what makes you angry, how you feel, what you really think about her, what you really want to say to her. The other 6 bother me, because they either werent boyfriends, or they were really short term relationships. I made the comment that I want to balance the equation now. The view on trauma is true too.
She is beautiful, intelligent, interesting, and fun. Like how we got shouted at at a football game by the guy she fucked. It's the same action that would be considered a betrayal if you were together. They had sex possibly in his car after two meetings and that guy did nasty stuff which I am not sure I can tell it here. A bit of time to yourself where you are distracted will help you to calm down prevent you from saying things that you will later regret. One of the gravest blows to me was the knowledge that while it would all be new for me, I'd just be the third or fourth partner for her. Do her actions now match with what she's telling you? I do not want to have sex with anyone else now,I look at my past and wish I could have saved myself for him.
You know what you're talking about. Do you think she is more attractive to men than you are to women? They want to know everything. But damn it is a conservative country I live in. While it obviously isn't, it feels like a betrayal. It goes away but it somehow comes back. Ask yourself this, had she not told you, would you still think the same? Recognize that you, or the two of you together, have something she never had in her past relationship.
Her focus should be on school and not having to appologize to you for the remainder of your relationship. Unless you were literally born last night, you also have a past. I put myself in her shoes and I know she regrets sleeping with the two previous guys. How could she like this arrogant prick? I'm very confident in myself and she makes me feel confident in myself as well. There is nothing wrong with that. Not sure I believe that. And before I found your course I felt like no-one understands and I was embarrassed to talk about it with anyone.
And, whether you realize it or not, you're jealous of the fact that she has all of that experience and you don't. You know, women do not lose anything after they have sex with someone, its not like a part of their vagina falls off, or they lose a part of their emotion to love. You are jealous of the experiences your partner had with his ex, perhaps they went on holiday or shared a love for a special activity. Constantly obsessing over his past is not going to make you feel good about yourself or your relationship. Guys, you need to work through this. What you need to do is learn to let go of your fears and just trust that whatever happens will happen anyway.
Cheating in my book is unacceptable and gets the boot automatically. If you decide to marry 70+% risk. There are things you love about her and your relationship. So I kept pushing it saying am I really your 8th or is it gonna go up again. When we got the news from the doctor it tore me apart, that along with getting her actual number. Write down a list of things you are good at as well as your accomplishments in order to feel good about yourself.
We all make decisions along the way, some good, others bad and the outcomes of those decisions is ultimately what shapes our very being. I never hold this against her, judge her or make her feel bad about the choices she made. She would date in between breakups. This is my first post here but I need some serious advice. Its natural, the way you feel, its inevitable, but I also think that this is probably a by-product of moving too fast in your own head.