Everybody thought I could do better, but he was my first love. I had tried to change everything about myself to please him, and now with something I couldn't change, insecurity overwhelmed me. Your reading comprehension sucks or you really don't understand what toxic masculinity means. That's when it immediately clicked in my head that what he did was wrong. I am not saying it's the whole story, but it's a large part which is separate from psychological trauma. He took me to a deserted parking lot and raped me.
We're not a couple, but we're definitely more than just friends. Most of my friends in high school were tiny little Asian girls, so I never really got much attention from guys growing up. How dare you leave a man that honestly deserves so much better than an inhuman psycho like you on his own after he just broke down! I told him to stop several times. Unfortunately he didn't intend to drive me home. Go ahead and leave him. I still feel the sting between my legs and my sense of security is shot.
. In fact, we challenge you to do so! Probably 90% of the feminists I know and speak to I have a lot of feminist friends would agree that someone who has consent to sex is not raping someone. I immediately whipped around and asked what the hell he was doing. I had an older boyfriend, the guys I kicked it with were a lot cooler than the other freshman guys, and I never had to worry about trying to find anyone to buy me alcohol. And I don't know how to feel about how it first happened, i am not sure if i am okay. He consistently pushed your boundaries and was sexually abusive, then escalated into anal rape with the aid of alcohol.
I really want to be here for him, whether we remain friends, or become something more. Perhaps it is not as rare as the Reddit writer believes. Also, he did this in front of our 2 month old son, but fortunately he was asleep at the time. As for physical pleasure, it really can't be helped. So I blinded myself to how he was slowly changing.
We stayed in touch and no matter who else I tried to date I always thought in my head, my boyfriend was the one I would end up with and I still was in love with. I didn't say no, but I didn't say yes. This Reddit writer is a weak, sad sack of a woman. As soon as we made out, he wanted to touch me, and for me to touch him. He never asked you what you wanted. As you point out, crying is emotionally manipulative, but only really if it's meant to actively lead to a desired result. You don't owe anyone satisfaction but yourself, and you should have left this asshole a long time ago.
Please explain how she's a cunt. I was flattered that Jack wanted to pursue me and excited about the way he showered me with affection. You are not passive or silly or anything else not to see it - you were being a regular teenager preyed on by a horrible adult. Please also note that discussions about Incest in this forum are only in relation to abuse. And most of the time it is bullshit.
After five long months, I decided to end our relationship. It means he was too immature to express himself at the time. He was also a Christian—the perfect package. He was sympathetic, and asked what was wrong, but how could I tell him? Do you have any advice about how I go about this. You didn't say 'no' but you also didn't say 'yes'.
I suggest you talk to him about relationship boundaries. Go to a hospital emergency department or a specialized forensic clinic that provides treatment for sexual assault victims because that is what it was. I had had one sexual partner, my ex-boyfriend we'll call him Michael , a great person though he pressured me to have sex somewhat earlier than I wanted in the relationship but I don't regret it and we had a healthy sex life. Nobody knew what was happening, and frankly, I didn't want anyone to know. Personally, I don't blame you, nor think you should feel responsible. Edit: I am deeply moved by the overwhelming support I've received to due a post I didn't expect to receive much traction.