I have met his wife twice, but both times before the affair started, even emotionally. I was and, to a certain point, am trying to be all things to all people, and who I am and what I want has almost disappeared. The purpose of this sub is to give people an outlet to talk and discuss issues, not provide for a hook-up outlet. . He almost hurt me yesterday when I trash-talked you in front of him.
I respect that you have taken time to think about your life. I am still the woman who loves him with all my heart. I would like to acknowledge and apologize for my part in the demise of our marriage. The underlying love and desire that would drive us to a solution, or at least a compromise, was gone. I downgraded from the huge house with all the bedrooms — to a couch and then another couch and then a three bedroom apartment. Best, Donna Hello Donna, Your letter is full of positive denial but not much reality.
I am the woman who fell in love with the young boy who turned into a young man. I finally decided that I would dig up my wireless password and take a peek at my husbands usage. But, I should add, that after the split, he did came back once, but guess what. I do not want this divorce. The old Tom would not toss me and my daughters out with no regard to where we'd go, he just didn't seem to care all of a sudden blows my mind, still.
The man he is today only thinks of himself and that is very sad. Whereas in the past endured the hurt and pain, I now see that it is soon to drain my love for you. What dream are you holding on to and believing that keeps you from telling yourself the truth? That's a bitter pill to swallow for most men, and burring himself in short term satisfaction seems like it was a coping mechanism. I ran five miles a day so that I could stay in shape, made his meals, had his babies, and I accepted the long hours of a demanding profession. You deserve so much more than you are getting-I hope that is past tense and the recovery is the path to you getting what you want and need. That is the day my husband, out of the clear blue, told me he no longer wanted to be married to me. Even after I cheated, I hoped it would come back.
Yet you insist on blaming Patricia, accusing her of guilting him and manipulating the situation in her favor. I see so many men who shuttle their wives off to their own world, and even more that act like pigs. We were truly in love, and that made everything worth it. Would you want someone to do that to your daughter? But you used me to take something that is mine. No matter where he hid your pictures I found them, even though I kept hoping I wouldn't, and I never tried to.
Here I am working on the house while he was going out to have some fun. Instead of dealing with that issue, he chose a temporary release. It felt like he just wanted me closeted in another world, but also that I wasn't good enough, all the time. So, I wish you well, and, hon, but think twice before you go back. Only neglect, anger, hurtful words, and an empty bed. The blood of Christ can forgive every sin in your past.
Tommy will be working on his marriage, not worrying about how hurt you are. I can't imagine, after everything that happened, that we will be able to live together without ending with the same result. I understand how difficult this will be for you as well, and I will make every effort to provide you with comfort and support as we work through this together. The following day I went to work and called that number. And not being protected from these behaviors.
I'm not asking for wild, porn star, swinging off the ceiling fan sex. He has blocked you from every social media outlet and the phone. I wish it wasn't like this. I am a better person. In fact, you won when you and your husband got married.
Working two jobs to support his dream and knowing that that is what took me away and gave her the opening just kills me. Tommy was living the dream, having his cake and eating it too. The Other Woman, truth be told is a wonderful,loving lady. I know that it was never about me and the qualities I lack, it was about my husband and the qualities he lacked and a woman who was so insecure that she went for a married man. He had so many things that came before her and the family. What happened was that my new husband, boyfriend of eight years was drinking behind my back the entire cruise undetected by me.
I look at the picture of us on the beach, and I remember the dreams and the hopes, the stars, and the sunsets we watched. If he tells you anything else, if you believe anything else, you are lying to yourself, and he is lying to you. The more my suspicions grew, my instincts told me I was right. Rest assured, I wish you no harm. Some are selfish; some are narcissistic and go after what they want regardless of who it hurts.