A few months ago my Facebook feed was erupting in cheers and tears and Amens! Is breastfeeding a toddler hard? I would endure the paralyzing pain for daaaaaaaays. While I was celebratory, I was mourning an impending loss that never happened. This article was such an encouragement to me. While its true that many moms have chosen to maintain a career while parenting children, many other moms would gladly choose to stay home if they could; but economics have stripped them of that choice. And this is a problem because? Rather you have one child or twenty. Do reclaim control of your life. If we can assume that everyone loves us and has our best interests in mind, it will reduce our stress levels and put us in a much more positive place.
The number of children you have in no way makes you a better mom. Well, I would have before I realized she was a Judgy Judy patronizing unsuspecting pregnant women just trying to get their chai on. Maybe, just maybe, some of the things will resonate with you, or make you think about what works for you, or motivate you to do your own research, or just comfort you to know that there is someone out there looking for answers…just like you. You would feel like an outsider, you would feel like everyone was looking at you, and you would question yourself. Keep being real and pointing us mamas to Christ. If you choose to be the primary caregiver to children and yes, it is a choice , you get the consequences along with it. In regards to the whole breastfeeding thing.
In fact, the choices we make for each child might even be different, because each child is different. But this week has been tough and I am just over it. Eleanor Roosevelt was a smart lady gamerecognizesgame basicallyimsayingimawesome eleanorwouldalikedpoundingthings I formula feed and I don't find the last line offensive at all. I have always hated the sides that mothers take on these four areas. If we could all focus on lifting each other up instead of putting each other down and loving and accepting each other even though we may be different, we could really break down some of the barriers that are preventing us from living in a more harmonious way. But when we make an effort to only speak positively about other Moms, we lift them up and show our support.
Companies love to sell that because it means they can use it to pit us against each other and sell more products. Give your kids frozen pizza for dinner last night? But the true test of your strength happens when you encounter problems or hardship. I appreciate my readers and love it when readers take the time to give feedback, share ideas, or engage in discussion. It can be easy to judge someone else, especially when we don't understand their way of doing things. I tell her that before she can fall in love with someone else, she has to love herself first. If we can all embrace ourselves and our role as mothers, and if we can embrace each other, regardless of our differences and regardless of our preferences, then we can end these mommy wars, and get back to what really matters, being moms.
It is truly liberating, and it is a mindset that will not allow for the behavior that leads to mommy wars. Have you ever seen or experienced bully behavior in your mommy world? There is a myriad of other topics that bring out the worst judge-y moms. Often times I do find myself coming to the defense of other parents because I get it—kids can go from zero to crazy in 60 seconds. Always keep in mind that there is no way to hear tone of voice or see facial expressions. There is no reason to keep people in our lives who make us feel bad about ourselves. Moms who are scared and alone may saddle up to the strongest voice, looking for protection, looking for acceptance, looking for direction, but it is never worth it if it hurts someone else.
I was ready and prepared to breast feed them. How long should I breastfeed for? This is the way we can feel when we are in battle with one another: At times I feel as though people are all about competition. So you realize no one can really credit or blame their life choices for their kids' personalities. I see people having rough days getting a hug or meeting new friends to share a coffee with. Have you ever rolled your eyes at the mother whose child was having a tantrum at the grocery store instead of offering her a reassuring glance? When we can be a good mommy friend, we are building bridges that connect our souls and we are breaking down the barriers that lead to mommy wars.
The media loves this kind of hype. Both sides can be so mean. It is her dream that moms everywhere accept and embrace the Whatever Mom philosophy which can be found. No one cares if they are angry clicks. I'm not sure if working would make that feel different or not. It helps to accept that it is impossible to achieve the perfect balance between home life and work at all times, and sometimes you just have to let things go.
See my full for more details. From the way we educate our children, to breastfeed or not, and or not are all judgements we secretly make about one another. We are all in this together — this wonderfully messy thing called motherhood. Bullies can do a lot more damage when they have followers. Embrace the uniqueness of others without trying to change them! I know I am a good mom and don't judge other moms on parenting choices such as breast v.
It only keeps the war going! Considering we may have more kids in the future, I want to document everything we do, so we remember what worked the first time around, and hopefully help other first time mamas along the way! It is impossible to feel sorry for yourself and experience at the same time. Typically, when people shame others, they feel justified in blasting them on the Internet. I have to handle them all in a slightly different way because I know what works with them. This is an outlet for individuals who would like to share their stories, in the hope that others will connect and find support. So again, to the woman who offered help, thank you.