You are lucky he didn't call the police or worse yet, slap you back! I used to think he was a good guy. Like you're not in control, the emotion is. My wife felt she was off duty when I came home, regardless of anything that may have happened or needed to be done. But consider this: there may be other ways for you to express yourself so that you are heard. I might as well start preparing that night's dinner; I was too wide awake to go back to bed. You might say that you are sorry but that hurt from those words could tend to linger longer than you would like.
It's bad and I hate myself for it. Again, you're figuring out where your real anger is coming from. Another problem is she has many people whom she discusses all the matters with, whereas I do not share household problems with others easily. People with anger issues fall into conditioned blaming where the person nearest and closest is the brunt and cause of the unhappiness. Please give me your honest opinions. My wife is so quick to anger all the time and I have a hard time not responding without getting defensive. Men that are raised by smothering-mothers learn to shut off a part of their heart for internal protection.
We're best friends, we spend almost all of our time together, but now we get cranky easily and take it out on one another instead of going to eachother for support, we nit-pick at stupid things, and I have become increasingly needy and demanding. Everyone deserves it, no matter what. Anyhow, to whom and type of people we aurround ourselves with does play a part of what we already inflict onto ourselves such as being responsible for everything leaving others able to be irresponsible. You need to make a decision that anger is not going to be in charge. Outer conditions trigger switches in the mind, but they are not the cause of the anger.
He used to spend all of his time with me. It's incredible how many illness can be resolved by ensuring that all your hormones are balanced. Your mind is yours to control. Hurt If you feel hurt by someone's actions, a part of you might not want to deal with that emotion so you choose to respond with anger instead. Now, you and the rage are not very friendly and it has a lot of power. What causes me to be in this angry mood and what can I do to stop being so snappy? It sounds like you really get frustrated with his emotional absence and that underlying frustration may feed the anger not exactly what I mean but I couldn't think of another word you feel towards him.
As you can imagine, that was a very pleasant and unexpected surprise for me! I hope you decide to shift this into a positive direction. You just want the program to work and it's so frustrating because you don't know how to get the software to do that. And ask him to put a little more effort into your relationship and show more care toward you if he actually cares about this relationship. I am 29, moved back home a few years ago after my wife left me. But ask Johnny to cook peas and he'll forget to add water. This will probably work for you, too.
My only advice is to tell him that you're feeling like that and you don't mean to snap at him. Patience and compassion are the foundations of positive energy and cooperation among people. This will have the opposite effect and may open the door for more insults. In fact, when your partner insults your appearance, intelligence, opinions, or choices, that is considered emotional abuse. I am not sure how to get around that and how to have a reasonable conversation. I am also very critical with him about the things he does eg when he drinks, goes out to the club, doesn't save enough money, how and with who he wants to spend time etc. The lack of time together may be leading to these feelings.
The book asked a lot of tough questions and made me cringe at times but helped me along the way. But I understand unhealthy mentally and physically abusing ones spouse may cause separation. Most of our friends would be shocked to know how he treats me at home. The problem lies in that I have become irritated with him a lot of the time, even for little things he does. Stop expecting others to behave as per your wish. You need to know where your anger is really coming from. It can also be hard to understand why someone would do that to you.
Keep meeting the anger you feel inside over and over with this wisdom. And after every minor thing i did, like didnt save enough coffee for her in the morning, i met anger. Hard to find, yes, but possible. If you are closed off to new experience when opportunity again knocks you will miss out on that opportunity. For what is going on in your brain, I tend to think of thoughts as electrical and emotions as chemical. It's completely unexceptable to take out your past transgressions on him. He was always able to control his rants around them.