I was taking a walk today and I started thinking about this issue. Not all women are preprogrammed with maternal instincts. With kids comes the pressure to make perfect choices. So for the good of us all, those who can have kids, should have kids, while the rest of us help them out. That may or may not have actually happened.
From the investigation, Hadley found that the influences on men and women who wanted to have children varied. Articles like this brought up the whole hypocrisy of it all. I am in my twenties and I am not interested in raising children. It's what every living organism does. If nothing else, our respondents were well aware that the responsibility to be a good parent means consistently putting the child first and making healthy choices for them, and they didn't feel they were up to that challenge. I know someone who is 45 and just now, because he started going out with a younger woman who is right for him, is saying that he could finally imagine wanting kids.
When he first went online, he did a search for women based on age and geography and got about 2,000 hits. Wants freedom to do as one pleases? I'm having difficulty understanding the evolutionary mechanism at work here. The women who wanted more children, when they thought about not being able to have them, had higher levels of anger, depression, guilt, isolation, sadness and yearning than men. Would've been happily together without the governments recognition. One time we were casually joking about the future and he mentioned how he wanted at least four kids I balked immediately at his statement and responded with well who is going to take care of them? It overwhelms me to think that there would be a growing inside of me, depending on me to make healthy choices.
Your assertion that adults nurture kids who become adults that nurture other kids is a lovely thought but also a bit of a stretch judging by the daily news. I've also spent countless hours working for charities, I love my family deeply, I do care about the future, and I have been a role model to others. Think about being a kid and wanting a puppy. We always hear about dead beat dads. As you bond with the kid, you change Traditionally, women have been the sole caregivers. Nothing appears or disappears that wasn't part of the original construct, which explains why obviously destructive behaviors continue to occur all over the planet when it is patently clear that these behaviors will have negative consequences to all involved, even the perpetrators who engage in these destructive behaviors.
Fertility issues can give a different perspective on the necessity of having kids. However, I'm thankful I didn't have any kids - nobody else who depended on me- right now. Just watch the news; is it really worth bringing a child into a world like that? Did it ever occur to you that plenty of well-adjusted men and women just don't want to be parents? I made up my mind when I had diagnosed with the same mental illness that my mother has. Citing factors like global , or a general discontent with society, many readers don't want their offspring to have to deal with the world's problems. I know what children are capable of and it scares me. Made me remember what I used to say to people.
No one deserves to live like this if it can be prevented. I've told my fiancé multiple times that if we were to have children, he would have to bear the brunt of at least 90% of the child-rearing responsibility, because I am not even remotely interested in changing diapers, feeding helpless drool goblins, arranging play dates, etc. For my son, my husband has always been a super hero, in league with his Batman and Avengers superheroes. Now that those sacrifices are more evenly shared between parents, no one should be surprised to learn that fewer men now want to have children. According to , young men are more likely to have healthy babies.
But to state the obvious women differ from one another. If it were instinctive, there would be no need for social and cultural pressures to have children. I didn't like kids and still don't. Those men will act different around children. I think it's really easy for a lot of men to say they want kids when they're not the one who is going to have to be pregnant, etc. I find it interesting that so many parents have often rude and egotistical and narrow minded views on why people do not have children or should have children.
When you have someone dependent on you for love, happiness, discipline, guidance, you start creating a bond with them. They are expensive, messy, annoying, needy, etc. It seems to me, however, that if you want to proclaim a new trend, you should be relying on something a little more substantial than conventional wisdom from the past. Regardless of my answers to these questions, the reactions are always the same. He's taking for granted the traditional nuclear family, and simply assumes you will carry the bulk of the burden of child rearing, while he'll be out there earning and providing for his family.